In Memory of

Mary Joan Hoyler

August 2, 1945 - June 25, 2023



Mary J Hoyler, 77 of Lee’s Summit passed away Sunday, June 25, 2023 surrounded by her loved ones. Per her request, Mary will be cremated and offered unto the Lord in a private observance. She will be interred at the Missouri Veterans Cemetery in Higginsville, MO.

Mary was born August 2, 1945 in Trenton, IL. She worked in public relations at Longview Community College and later went to work for AT&T as a systems administrator until retired.

Mary loved music, especially jazz, playing old-movie trivia games with close friends, the perfect lipstick, fine dining and a good Manhattan. She and her husband enjoyed many years of traveling together and seeing the great outdoors. Mary cherished spending time with family.

Mary was preceded in death by her husband David Hoyler of 36 years and her parents Clifford and Hazel (Pohlman) Herstein. She leaves behind a daughter and son-in-law, Tracy Cary-Stephenson and Steve Stephenson, son and daughter-in-law Michael and Terri (Detwiler) Cary; grandchildren Devin (and Zee) Cassity, Krista Cassity, and Michael Cary Jr.; along with treasured extended family members and dear friends.

We all love you very much Mary, and will miss you dearly.

Memorials may be given in Mary’s memory to The Alzheimer’s Association. Online condolences may be left at Arrangements by Langsford Funeral Home, 115 SW 3rd St., Lee’s Summit, MO 64063


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Mom. You were my life-giver, my protector, my strength and my friend. You held me when I entered this world, and I held you when you left this world. I am so blessed to have had you in my life. I am comforted by your memories and will forever cherish the time we spent together. Trips to New York to see a Broadway show, canoeing, skiing, dancing, charades, big family, dinners, and cozy Christmas nights. I love you forever.

Very sorry to hear. I spent quite a bit of time with Mary and Dave when I was younger. Mike and I would go to the lake with them. Mary always treated me like part of the family.

I worked with Mary when I was a student journalist at Longview back in the 1970s. Oh, the great times the team of student journalists shared, creating newspaper content! I learned so much from her — problem-solving skills, what works and what doesn’t when it comes to journalism and public-relations — and never forgot her! Saddened to hear of your loss.

Years ago, Marie and Dave took Mike and I to a little restaurant in Kansas City, somewhere very small place but very classy. They had a small piano band that played while we ate. I had never experienced anything like that before so needless to say, I will remember that for ever. One of the funnest times I never knew that I could have, so young at the time. Thank you for always making me feel comfortable and welcomed, you will be dearly missed.

It’s hard to believe that Mary is gone. She and I met at Longview CC in the 1970’s. We were both single and our boys (Mike and Gary) became lifelong friends. We did a lot of things together (some things I can’t share ha..ha..). She demanded and earned respect – she got it. Rest in peace my friend. To her family – always remember her as the beautiful person she was. With Love, Susan Demetreon


Langsford Funeral Home
115 SW 3rd St
Lee’s Summit, MO 64063


Langsford Funeral Home
115 SW 3rd St
Lee’s Summit, MO 64063