Obituary
Michael Richard Oyler, age 63, Lee’s Summit, MO, passed away on August 23, 2020.
Mike was born on January 3, 1957 in Washington D.C. to Mary Margaret “Peggy” and Charles Richard “Dick” Oyler. He was the oldest of three, followed by his siblings Tom and Lynda. He grew up in Bowie, Maryland where he is well known for his friendliness and generous heart by friends and family.
On May 16, 1990, Mike married the love of his life, Lisa. Together they had two children, Rebecca and Kevin. His wife and children knew him as a goofy, hard-working, compassionate, Paul McCartney-obsessed man who would give anyone the shirt off of his back. He was incredibly outgoing and would run into people he knew wherever he went. When he wasn’t working and helping others, he was coaching all of Kevin’s sports, supporting Rebecca at dance recitals and coaching her volleyball team, or playing with his kids and dog at home. He took every opportunity to sing his wife and children’s praises to anybody who would listen.
It’s hard to convey in words how incredibly generous and dependable Mike was to everyone around him. Whether you were a friend or stranger, he was always ready to offer his assistance whether it be in the form of a helping hand, a listening ear, or a warm embrace. One immediately felt better when he was around, and knew he would carry any burden on their behalf. To know him was to know true selflessness and love.
Mike was a force of nature in his careers, and dedicated his life to doing good for his community. After serving in the US Army from 1975-1978, he obtained his Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism at the University of Maryland before pursuing a career with the FBI as a Special Agent. For 32 years he worked tirelessly, dedicated to doing ‘bad things to bad people’, while simultaneously helping and changing the lives of many of those he came across. It would be difficult to summarize the numerous accomplishments throughout his career, but he was so proud of the work he did, with justice and his ironclad morals always at the forefront of his mind.
After retirement, his work was not done. Never one to sit idly by, he immediately began volunteering with the Red Cross as part of the Disaster Action Team, responding to fires and natural disasters in Kansas City and the United States. Often getting up in the middle of the night to respond to fires, Mike’s favorite part was getting hugs from those he was holding up in the midst of a tragedy. As a military veteran, he also volunteered with Veteran’s Court as a mentor, eager to help change the lives of his peers.
Those close to Mike knew he was a practical man of simple pleasures. A $2 PBR tallboy and a burger were the height of luxury, although his son would attest to the fact that he secretly loved barrel-aged bourbon stouts. Easy-going and kind, Mike was a huge personality who was always the focal point of a party or outing. He could talk for hours, telling stories of his life and family with no end in sight. After the heart-breaking theft of his original Bronco 2 in the 1985, Mike was always seen in a fuel-efficient Toyota or Honda on the way to baseball practice or McDonald’s. He wanted all for others, and nothing for himself. The hardest part about this loss is knowing of all the lives that will not get the chance to experience his immense generosity and kindness.
The world would be a better place if there were more people like Mike Oyler.
He is survived by his wife Lisa, his daughter Rebecca Oyler and her husband Cory Wacht, his son Kevin Oyler, his brother Tom Oyler and his sister Lynda Oyler. He is preceded in death by his father Charles and his mother Mary.
There will be a funeral service at Holy Spirit Catholic Church in Lee’s Summit, MO (1800 MO-150) at 10 AM on Saturday, August 29, 2020. That evening, there will be a visitation service from 6-8 PM at Langsford Funeral Home (115 SW 3rd St) also in Lee’s Summit. The visitation will be preceded by a military honors at 5:45 PM. For those who cannot attend in person, we would love for you to join the 10AM service via live stream: https://youtu.be/gCg1P22QV5Y
In lieu of flowers and gifts, the family requests donations be made to the Red Cross to continue Mike’s legacy of serving others, through the organization he was so passionate about. Mike Oyler Memorial Fund here: https://charity.gofundme.com/o/en/campaign/mike-oyler-memorial-fund
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i am So Very Sorry for your loss. May God surround each family member with His Loving Arms and Comfort You at this Very Difficult Time.
My cousin Mike was an Amazing Man who will Truly be missed by so many.
With All My Love & Deepest Sympathy ❤ Theresa Oyler Brown & Family
Beautiful tribute, this explains Mike in a nutshell! We will all miss him so much but he left a great legacy behind.
To the family and friends of Mike. My deepest sympathy to you all. Mike and I had a special bond formed through our love of movies and TV shows. We were the only two people we knew way back when that liked the movie “Eyes Wide Shut”. We always talked about the latest releases and Oscar nominees….I missed him being in the office after he left and was always happy to see him at events held in the office after he retired. I also saw him on several occassions this yer at the gym. The last thing he recommedned I watch was Messiah on Netflix….he will be missed.
Melika Brown
Deepest condolences Lisa and family. Truly blessed to have such a loving family to help hold you up through this. I love you sweet cousin.
I had the privilege of working with Mike in Kansas City. He was kind, generous, an outstanding FBI agent and an even better man. Lisa, Rebecca and Kevin, I am so sorry for your loss.
Thank you for your service Mike….rest in peace.
Our sincere condolences to Mike’s family. Certainly Mike will be missed! I knew him to be one of the hardest working agents, who was committed, not only to his job, but to his coworkers. I know you have been welcomed to God’s Kingdom!
What an incredible loss… the sadness and grief of losing such a great man of God. A wonderful husband,father and friend. The heartbreak and shock at this time has got to be overwhelming for so many that knew him. The laughter, the incredible smile and such an amazing down to earth attitude. The warmth and adoration that he showed Lisa , was actually palatable by her girlfriends that were invited over for wine and appetizers. Laughter and conversation never went dry. The blessings that are left for Lisa, Rebecca and Kevin are… what an amazing gift of a man that was given to you to have and to cherish. Not everyone gets to have this in their lifetime. You will all be together again in Heaven, where there will be no more sorrow, no more tears and no more pain. Much love to you at this time and always ❤
Mike is one of the very few people I can call a friend. I think we met 25 years ago. At the gym. Ever since then when we would see each other there and we would talk for 45 mins. and exercise for 15. I think our tongues were the only thing that got any exercise. I would get home from the gym and my wife would ask me “I thought you would of been home earlier? I would tell her, “ I ran into Mike at the gym.” And she would say that explains why. We just spoke with each other a couple of weeks ago right before I left for vacation. I’m really going to miss him and I know every time when I walk into the gym I will think about him.
Unlike Mike, who was never at a loss for words, I’m speechless. Take care, and God speed Mike. Your duty is done; we’ll take it from here.
Lisa, Rebecca, and Kevin. He loved you all very, very much and spoke of you every chance he got.
I always have and will think of Mike as my best friend. Even though way too much time passed between visits, especially lately, we never missed a beat in immediately picking up with laughs and good times. Mike, you were the brother I never had and I will miss you always. Although I write this with tears in my eyes and feel so sad, I have so many unbelievably wonderful memories that will keep me laughing until my life ends as well. Love to Lisa, Rebecca, Kevin, Tom and Lynda.
Condolences to your family and friends. I worked with Mike for several years at the Bureau, and recently had a chance to speak with him while visiting the office. Mike was everything mentioned here and much more. He was a hero to so many and will truly be missed.
I knew Mike from CYO at Saint Pius X Church in Bowie and also in Jr. High and High school. The tribute to him was spot on. Mike was well loved by all who knew him in Bowie. He will certainly be miss. Gone way too soon. My prayer for Lisa, Rebecca and Kevin. Jean Gormley Dellinger
To the Oyler Family:
Please accept my deepest sympathies on Mike’s far to early passing. I was lucky enough to work with Mike when I was in the U.S. Attorney’s Office; he made me a better prosecutor and we both had a lot of fun in the process. Even though it’s been 20 years since we worked together, whenever we’d run across each other, it was like not a minute had passed. A great agent and a prince of a man. You’re in the McInerney Family’s prayers.
Lisa: I am obviously shocked to learn of Mike’s passing. Health issues prevent me from personal attendance, but know I will be there in spirit, I will have you and the family in my prayers as you face the days ahead.
Mike was all that was said in his obituary – a fun, loving, giving and passionate person, who was a friend to all. I will deeply miss him and his wonderful personality. I feel as though I know his family, particularly the love of his life and his children, as he talked about them with pride and love on many opportunities – even in the midst of trial! My condolences to you all. Mike lived life to its fullest and will be sorely missed by us all.
Mike, You were always a good friend to me and so many other people, if you looked in the dictionary under “GOOD GUY”, one would certainly see a picture of you! I fondly remember our days at the Hecht Company in Hyattsville, CAPS Games, playing hoops among many other fun and enjoyable times. Although I have not seen you in years reading this made many fond memories rush back. Rest in Peace my friend until we meet again, Job well Done!
I loved Mike and he devoted himself to my class kicking off our forensic unit every year for a decade. He helped several of my students after meeting them. He helped me and my sons. I was so thankful that he was in the world. I definitely lost a friend I loved and someone who made me feel safe and he was always there. Every year when Mike came to class he would write on the board something his father told him: Be kind, Be brave, Be honest. He was truly an inspiration. I am so sorry for your loss.
I am deeply saddened to learn of Mike’s death. I had the honor of working with him years ago and he never forgot about it and kept in touch over the years. He had a tremendous sense of humor. Words cannot adequately convey my sorrow for his family and loved ones. Mike rest in peace my friend.
I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of Mike. I had the chance to visit with him at one of our STA Christmas parties at Elaine Metcalf’s house and will never forget some of the interesting FBI stories he told as well as learning he was a Journalism graduate too. Mike was so full of life and so proud of his family. May God surround you with the many memories you all have had and I am praying for peace and comfort for your family during this most difficult time. My deepest sympathies.
I am still in shock to hear this sad news about Mike. Mike did my background check in 1984 for my slot at the U.S. Attorney’s Office and over the next thirty years we became friends and colleagues. I was always confident going to trial with Mike as the case agent. He was always a pleasure to work with. He adored his kids. I am so sorry for your incredible loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. David
I was shocked to hear of Mike’s passing. Seems like it was just a couple weeks ago I saw him at the gym. I always enjoyed. seeing and talking (or listening) to him. Our heartfelt condolences.
Our deepest sympathy. We are thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
Chris, Amy and Mason Sipe
Tireless in his efforts to make a difference in the world. Great FBI Agent! Always had time for everyone. He was a true friend to many. God Bless.
We are all so sorry to hear the news about Mike.
He was an amazingly kind, loving and honorable man. To know him was to love him.
Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you during this difficult time.
Our deepest sympathies to all Mike’s friends and family. Truly a great man who left his mark on this world.
Sorry for you loss. I enjoyed working with Mike I. Kansas City.
Dear Lisa, Rebecca & Cory, Kevin and family – we cannot find words to share our sorrow of the loss of your husband, dad and father-in-law. Mike will be missed by all. May he rest in peace and may you all find comfort in his memories forever. Our prayers are with you at this incredibly difficult time.
I had the pleasure of working with Mike for many years at the FBI. He was the consummate agent, the one newbies strived to emulate. A family man, a humanitarian, and a hellava great guy. May God bless you and your wonderful family.
Such dark moments filled with warm memories and the love you shared with Mike/Dad. Mike will be with you every day, in every moment. Listen carefully for his words and allow his hug surround you. May God give you comfort in each other. My deepest sympathies to you my friends.
Lisa, I was shocked to hear about Mikes passing. I worked with Mike in the NYO on SOG 9 ( the Blue team) for 5 years. It saddens me to see a great guy, hard worker and awesome family man to be lost this young. I last saw Mike a few years back when in Kansas City for work. We met, had dinner, a few drinks and told old stories. I was listening to music the other day and actually thought of Mike and his love of Paul McCartney music. and I recalled Mike, and maybe you going to see him in NYC while working with him in NYC. I also worked with him when he traveled to McAllen Texas for a drug case in the mid 1990 s. I wish I was close enough to be able to make the visitation.. All my best to you and your family. Jim
To Mike’s wonderful family, my name is Eric Jackson. I had the privilege to be Mike’s Special Agent in Charge (SAC), for two years, and two years as an Assistant Special Agent in Charge. Mike was one of the most dedicated, smart, fearless, and driven to bring bad people to justice Special Agents I have ever worked with, and for. Mike was an investigators, investigator. He loved the FBI and cherished every day at work. I was blessed to see another side of Mike. Most evenings Mike would stop by my empty office to brief me on his big case, and eventually the briefing would turn into a briefing about his wonderful family. Mike loved each of you so much and would share your highlights with me, including his love for his mother. Mike was one of the many reasons, I did two tours in Kansas City, and I am so very sorry I didn’t get to hug him one last time before he departed. He was a true gentleman, and I will miss him greatly. My condolences and blessings to all the members of Mike’s family, and to his beloved FBI family. God will take very good care of his newest Special Agent reporting for duty!
I first met Mike in 1985 while playing league softball. Me with the KCMO PD, Mike with the KC Division FBI. Years later, while working for the Bureau, I had the fortunate experience of working with Mike. He was passionate about his duty as a Special Agent, as well as his service to our nation. He will be missed. My condolences to Mike’s family.
I had the pleasure of working with Mike for over 16 years. He was, and remains to be one of the most dedicated Agents I have ever met. Just a few days prior to his passing he called met to report the specifics of a drug deal he witnessed at a gas station. He rattled off all the information from memory. He may have retired from the Bureau but he was never off the clock. Mike spoke A LOT about the cases he worked and how much he enjoyed the job, but that paled in comparison to how often he spoke about his family. Kevin and Rebecca, he was so incredibly proud of you both and loved you tremendously. Lisa, he was completely enamored with you and spoke of you only with praise. You were all fortunate to have each other, and I consider myself fortunate to have known him. He will be missed. My sincerest condolences go out to you and your family.
My and I go back to elementary school at St. Pius in Bowie. There wasn’t a nicer guy around. We were lucky enough to reconnect a number of years ago and took up where we left off. Talking about family and mutual friends. He talked about his kids with such joy. He told me how proud he was of them. He said it was his wife that should take the credit for raising such great kids. That to me was Mike. A true family man. Proud, humble. Happy. He will be missed. My thoughts and prayers for his family. May God, friends, and family help you navigate your way through your pain.
Mike loved being an FBI Special Agent AND he was great at it! One of the best in an organization that has so many quality people. Fidelity, Bravery and Integrity were at his core and tradition always on his mind. On my last day as an Agent he lingered around and kept asking me how long I planned to stay. The office was empty by the time I was ready to leave, with the exception of Mike. He was waiting for me and when I asked him why he was still in the office at a late hour on a holiday weekend he said he did not want me to walk out on my last day by myself. That was Mike. A tremendous man who gave so much to so many. Never asking for anything in return. He was so proud of his family…sharing every baseball and volleyball game highlights to anyone within ear shot. He will be missed but never forgotten. Love and prayers to the Oyler family during this difficult time.
Mike lived and worked by the motto of Fidelity, Bravery, and Integrity every day of his life. The Kansas City community in general, and the FBI in particular, is better off for having had Mike Oyler on the job. Rest in Peace, Mike… you will be missed.
Condolences to his family. I’m sure he made a difference when he was here.
(I’m not sure but I believe I was at FBI headquarters with his dad. He was my softball coach.)
Mike you will be missed it was a good feeling knowing you were right around the corner. Will miss all the family updates and all the conversations about politics. REST IN PEACE. Chuck DiMarco
Mike was one of those special people who always appeared highly positive and full of energy. He was an outstanding example of a human being. I enjoyed his company very much and I have many memories of Mike helping me and my family with life’s obstacles’. I will miss him and miss seeing him weekly at the Genesis gym. He was the BEST!
Lisa & family, I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. I only met him a couple times. He sounds like an amazing husband, father and servant. My sincere condolences. Prayers for you and your family.
Lisa, Rebecca, Kevin and family, we were so sad to hear about the sudden death of Mike. Our family has so many wonderful memories with your family through our kids elementary, middle school and high school years. We will always treasure these memories and the kindness, competitiveness, support, and love for life from Mike. We enjoyed all of his stories and he was so so proud of his wife and children. Please know many people have welcomed Mike into heaven and his stories and willingness to help others will continue to shine forever. What a wonderful example Mike was for all of us. Please know you are in our prayers during the days, weeks, and months ahead and may God comfort you during this very difficult time. God Bless, Vicki, Chris, Bradley and Alex Mueller
We are thinking of you all and smiling at Mike’s photo as he was always smiling when we saw him. He sure did brag about his amazing family and was such a class act of a husband, father, sibling and friend. We are so happy we got to know him. Love to all of you during this sad time.
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I had the privilege of having Mike work for me while I was in Kansas. At times I felt like I worked for him! He was such a hard worker and had such a heart for justice and the victims. Mike now has a whole new group to tell his wonderful stories:). Prayers for peace at this time.
You all don’t know me but I want you to know that I know you. Mike & Lily always stopped to say “hi” to me and my dogs, Duke & Max (well Mike said hello to “the boys”, Lily wasn’t impressed with them, but I got to love on her). He gave me crap about my Steelers and we’d talk World and our life events. As you mentioned, he told me stories of his family and was so proud! I’m glad that he and his son “broke the rules” and had beers together during quarantine! He will be missed!!!! I promise that I will continue to keep the “pipes” clean so that the water running over the dam will not back up and it will be as safe as possible to walk across.
My deepest sympathy to the Oyler family. Mike was truly one of the most enthusiastic and dedicated Agents I’ve had the pleasure to work with. His dedication to law enforcement and protecting people had an impact on many lives.
My deepest sympathy to the Oyler family. I worked with Mike for over 25 years. He gave his all. He loved the Bureau so much and cared a great deal about his FBI family. It was truly an honor to have known Mike.
I’m another grade school friend of Mike’s from St. Pius – now living in NH. Your wonderful tribute tells everything there is to know about Mike! Please accept my heartfelt condolences for your sudden loss. May your wonderful memories sustain you. Eternal rest grant unto Mike O Lord and let your perpetual light shine upon him.
I am in shock to hear of Mike’s passing! He had such a zest for his job, his family and just life in general. The world was a better place with him in it! My deepest sympathy to his family.
To the Oyler Family -I’m another grade school friend of Mike’s from St. Pius – now living in NH. Your wonderful tribute tells everything there is to know about Mike! It’s why he’s long remembered as a great guy! Please accept my heartfelt condolences for your sudden loss. May your wonderful memories sustain you. Eternal rest grant unto Mike O Lord and let your perpetual light shine upon him.
So sorry for your loss Lisa and family, I met Mike at MIC a few years ago he was a nice man with a great spirit. He will be missed, all of you will be in my thoughts and prayers. God bless,
Cathy Newlen
Deepest condolences to Lisa, Rebecca, Kevin and the entire Oyler family. Mike was not only a great agent, but an outstanding human being. May you find comfort knowing his positive influences will live on in the many lives he touched.
Lisa, I am so sorry for your loss. You had a wonderful husband and parents as well. Be comforted by the many friends who are with you in prayer.
My sincere condolences and prayers to the family. May God give send you some comfort at this difficult time??
Lisa, Rebbeca, Cory, and Kevin, I am very sorry for your loss. While it is certainly true Mike was a great servant to his community, his highest calling was family. Mike never missed an opportunity to express to everyone his love of his family and to tell us how proud he was of each of you. We are all deeply sadden by the loss of a good friend. May God find a way to surround you, comfort you, and protect you.
Mrs. Lisa Oyler & Family,
I too had the privilege to know & work with Mike in New York! He was truly a special unique friend and fellow SA!
Condolences and prayers on your and our loss of a fine human being.
Sincerely,
Shelly Stuart
When I found out that Uncle Mike passed, I lost it. I hope that he knows he saved mine and Jordan’s life. I will forever be grateful to him for that. I will miss getting texts from him that make me laugh or texts telling me where he’s at helping with the Red Cross or just texts telling me that he loves me and hopes Jordan and I are doing well. I will never know a man that is so fearless and dropped everything he was doing to help me like he did. My stepdad was always right when things went bad.. he would remind me that not everyone has an “Uncle Mike” like I do. It’s so very true. When I told him one day that he saved our lives, I remember him saying “I didn’t do anything. I just made a phone call!” He wouldn’t take recognition for what he did for us. My heart is so sad knowing that I won’t get to remind him of that anymore. But one last time “Thank you for everything. You saved us” I love you. — Lindsay and Jordan
Mike’s loss is immeasurable. He was the epitome of professionalism, and was known throughout the federal legal system in Mo-Kan as just and honorable. Mike was a “straight shooter” whose involvement in each of his cases ensured integrity and accuracy in the investigation. You could trust what Mike told you, “take it to the bank.” And beyond that, he was personable, fun, a pleasure to know.
God bless you, Mike, and your family.
I have known Mike for a number of years while working in Kansas City. Mike was a good friend and excellent investigator for the FBI.. We worked together for many years on the same squad and shared many laughs together. Mike will be greatly missed and his legacy will continue. God Speed Brother until we meet again. RIP
My sincerest condolences and deepest sympathy to the Oyler family. A great man, gone too soon. Mike epitomized Fidelity, Bravery and Integrity.
May he rest in peace.
Mike was one of the finest agents I had the pleasure to work with. Always low key he kept the stress and pressure of multi-defendant cases to a minimum which was huge especially when I was starting out as a federal prosecutor. Although I don’t believe even Mike could figure out the Maryland football uniforms, it was great talking sports and football with Mike and I appreciated his old school charm since we were about the same age. When you were assigned a case with Mike as case agent you knew it would be well prepared and that it was a winner just as he was. Bill.
My wife Dionne and I wish to express our heart felt condolences to the Oyler family. I worked with Mike for 23 years and I always appreciated his zeal for his work. Mike cared a great deal about doing his best at his job and he never failed to give it his all. He was a tremendous FBI Agent.
Perhaps the best compliment I can pass on about Mike comes from Dionne, who faced Mike several times as the opposing Attorney in trials. Dionne has said about Mike, “ He was one of the best at putting together a case and you knew that you could trust Mike and his work, and most importantly his word.”
Peace to you Mike.
My sincere sympathy to Lisa and family: I hope your broken hearts mend quickly! I connected with Mike when he first arrived in KC and I was assigned as his training agent. What an easy and enjoyable assignment. Mike was an energetic and dedicated trainee. His “G-Man” instincts were part of his soul. Mike was unrelenting in his pursuit of the bad guy(s). I wouldn’t want him trailing my ass. I can only echo the already expressed tributes to Mike. I know his family will cherish the short time they had with him and I will do the same. Rest-In-Peace, Mike. Your friend forever, Gary Witt
It is with great sadness I learned today of Mike’s passing.
I can still see him walking in the halls of the office or in the squad bay with his trademark Cheshire cat’s smile. On the worst of days, he was the light you looked for.
Be at peace my friend, and safe journeys.
Growing up in Bowie, with the “Bowie Guys,” as my wife refers to them, was one of the happiest times in my life. The day of reckoning was the furthest thing from our minds and we enjoyed life to its fullest, had a blast, honored our families, and cherished our friendships with each other. What Mike left me (and probably all of the Bowie Guys) were incredible and lasting memories that came flooding back when I got the sad news. Fortunately, we all had the chance to get together on several occasions in the recent past to reminisce about the good old days. Mike was quite a central figure in all of our memories and I hope that Lisa, Kevin, and Rebecca can fall back on their own memories that he left to them. We’ll all miss you Mike.
Paul Wohkittel
I remember meeting Mike many years ago as a new agent assigned to the Kansas City Division. He was a great guy who always took the time to say “hello” and ask how the newby was doing. It was great to read his tribute and learn of all the ways he continued to give back after he completed his dedicated service with the FBI. May he rest in the peace of Jesus…
I honestly don’t even know where to start with my sadness. My family knew him as Mentor Mike. My husband was one of his veterans at the Veteran’s Treatment Court. Before he met Mike he was going through many struggles. Him and Mike made almost an instant connections. My husband grew up never knowing his father, and that is what Mike became to him, sort of that father figure, best friend. They would text and talk almost daily while in the program. If Derek ever went 3 days without hearing from Mike he would always threaten to drive up there and knock on his door to make sure him or his wife were ok. That habit continued after he graduated the program. Mike truly changed my husband’s life and I will never be able to thank him enough for being the truly amazing person that he is. He would come to our kid’s basketball games, meet us for lunches any event we had Mike would always come to. We so looked forward to meeting his wife, and having them attend our wedding this September. Please know your family will forever and always be in our prayers.We were all so blessed to have Mentor Mike in our lives to the time god allowed us.
Many Prayers – Staci & Derek Lightfoot (and family)
I was shocked and saddened to hear of Mike’s passing. He was a fantastic person, both professionally and individually. He took the time to stop and talk to all people who made the wheels of justice turn at the federal courthouse. He enjoyed telling good stories and laughing at those shared with his fellow law enforcement officers. Mike always, ALWAYS had a smile-and one to give the person he was talking to.
If there was ever a picture needed next to the definition of what an FBI agent should aspire to be, Mike’s picture would be on that page.
My sincere condolences to his wife, family, extended family and his son and daughter.
We are so sorry for your loss. We responded with Mike on RC calls over the last six years including his last morning. Truly a loss for everyone that knew him and maybe even more for people that never got the chance. A really great guy to work with and be a friend to. We’ll miss swapping kids story and being a little braver with you at our sides.
Scott & Jann
Condolences and prayers for strength to the family.
Mike was one of the greats: a great agent and a great man. Mike and I were colleagues for many years in Kansas City. Whenever we talked (usually in the evening hours and on weekends at the U.S.Attorney’s Office), Mike shared his many loves: being an agent, working cases, the Terps (we were both from Maryland, The Greatest State in the Union), and most of all his family. I ran across many strong egos in the Bureau but Mike was a rarity in that he had the accomplishments to back up what he said. Your family is in my thoughts at this difficult time. Mike was one the reasons I was proud to be an agent. He was one of the finest agents I had the privilege of knowing.
As a rookie on the Red Cross Disaster Team Mike helped show me the ropes and was a tremendous resource for me. He was responsible for making my Red Cross experience enjoyable. I will miss him. My condolences.
Lisa, my condolences to you and your family, My husband And I were very saddened to learn of Mike’s death. I first met Mike when I worked at Our Lady of Presentation’s parish office when he would dress up as the Easter Bunny and visit the Pre School at Presentation. After that ,anytime I would see him he always took the time to visit. I saw him many times at the gym, as I walked on the tread mill he would always take the time to come and visit with me. He was so proud of his family and would fill me in on what his kids were doing. He will be missed by many people.
Dear Lisa and the Oyler family,
My deepest condolences on the passing of Mike. He was an amazing humanitarian and the Red Cross was so fortunate to have his leadership and compassion for serving others. He could share his stories about his experiences and you felt like you were there. What a gift.
We will have fond memories of Mike and are grateful for the time we shared with him.
My condolences to Mike’s family. I am still in shock to hear of his passing. I worked on several cases with Mike. He will certainly be missed. If you ever worked a case with Mike, you will never forget it. Rest In Peace my brother.
Lisa when I learned of Mike’s passing, I was speechless. I’m not sure my mind has reached the reality of this. As you know, I worked closely with Mike over 20+ years at the Kansas City FBI as his “private Intelligence Analyst (in his mind).” I feel so honored to have had this work relationship with Mike and all the unique & interesting cases we worked together. And yes everyone of Mike’s major cases contained one of the Beatles songs in its title. Mike was kind enough to speak at my retirement party in order to thank me for my case assistance. But he also shared his love for you, Rebecca & Kevin. Rebecca he showed me pictures after almost all your dance recitals & talked about how pretty you were in those elaborate dance outfits. From reading all these shared memories by co-workers & friends, it is obvious Mike was loved by many. Lisa please remember that the memories you, Rebecca & Kevin have shared throughout your lifetime will help you through these difficult times. Also, please accept my sincere condolences for your loss, and Mike should I run into you in heaven, please no request for a database check. It’s now time to relax. Debbie Korosac
I had the honor of working with Mike since 2002. No matter how new you were, he would always take the time to talk with you and make you feel part of the family. His love for the job and his dedication to our mission was always an inspiration for me that I still carry with me. I will miss you my friend.
To the Oyler family, I am sorry for your loss. I had the pleasure of volunteering with Mike at the ARC. Mike was a pleasure to be around and always enjoyed the stories of his family, ARC deployments and calls. Mike showed me the ropes on ARC calls as well as when I would call him at 3am to go out to assist a family on a fire call. Mike, Rest in Peace my friend.
Lisa Rebecca and Kevin,
Quite possibly the best tribute I’ve ever read. I was fortunate to meet your Dad while in COVID lockdown thank goodness:) the circle is complete. Your Dad was all of those things and more. His light will forever shine in my memories of that short bit of time we shared. Navigating your journey forward I wish for you comfort, Love and acceptance.
Ami ( Emily ).
So sad to learn of Mike’s passing. Even though he was a career FBI agent and I was career state trooper we never worked any cases together, though we had many common friends. Actually got to know Mike from seeing him at the gym running endlessly. After we both retired from law enforcement and I took a job teaching law enforcement I engaged Mike to come to my classes as guest speaker. He was a rock star in that venue.
Mike was like a self-propelled mower with a race car engine. All I had to do was pull the starter rope and 2 hours later class was over with every student wanting to be an FBI agent when he left. He always talked about The Beatles and specifically Paul McCartney. He was immensely proud of his wife and children. Somewhere behind his wife and children were the Maryland Terrapins and Baltimore Orioles. So hard to believe he’s gone. He made the most of the time he had. So sorry for your loss.
Jim Ripley, Ret. Lt. MSHP
Met the “Fighting Turtle” in 1984, on the softball field. Playing “down & dirty” competitive softball with the BU likes of MO, Coach T (Geno), Tony Davis, Mike Welch, Bob Novotny, Roger Yates, and many other BU greats, were the Best times in the World. Lisa, I know you were dating Mike in those early years and he told me “you were the one” he was going to marry. Classic Mike ! Lisa – Ceann and I pray for Peace, Love & Guidance during your time of mourning and may God Bless you and family, in the days ahead. One last thought. I know MO & Geno are again playing competitive softball together and I know one day, the entire “team” will be playing together again. Godspeed Mike Oyler…..
My family sends our sincere condolences to Mike’s family. I first met Mike as a fifth grader when Mike was my Dad’s Trainee (Gary Witt). Several years later, I had the pleasure to work with Mike as a fellow Agent in KC. He never forgot about our special connection through my Dad and he was always a blast to work with. He will be missed!!!
Dear Lisa and Family, I am deeply saddened by your loss and uplifting you in prayer for comfort. What a beautiful, purpose-filled life and legacy Mike leaves behind. The world truly is a better place for having someone like him amongst us. With love, ~ Cindi Carter
I worked with Lisa for many years at Summit Technology Academy retiring in 2019. I got to know Mike very well. When I knew he’d be up at STA visiting Lisa or as a frequent guest speaker, I made it a point to always visit with him. He was so dedicated to his work as an FBI Special Agent and enjoyed sharing his passion with our students. If I simply wanted to smile and laugh, Mike made that happen so naturally. Thank you Mike for well..,, being you. RIP Shipmate! ??
Mike was one of the nicest people I’ve ever met. He ALWAYS had a smile and was so ornery! He will be greatly missed!
Was so sorry to hear about Mike. A terrific guy in so many ways. He is gone too soon, but won’t be forgotten.
I have read all of the wonderful and moving tributes to Mike on this page and I would, respectfully, like to add my memories so that his Kansas City family and friends might learn even more about this extraordinary man. I will be viewing tomorrow’s service on my laptop while sitting on the porch at 3110 Teton Lane. I am unable to travel to Lee’s Summit, but more importantly, my story with Mike started at 3110 Teton, so to honor him I will view the service from the spot where our story began and where all of my memories come from…
From the time I was 8 years old until Mike left for the Army after we graduated from high school, I spent more hours at 3110 Teton than I did at my own house. Every important lesson that I needed to learn to be successful in life I learned either in the street in front of 3110 Teton competing against Mike in touch football, curb ball, stickball, and basketball, or in the kitchen at 3110 from Mr. Oyler, from whom I learned as much as I did from my own father. Mike and I, along with Dickie and Pete, played thousands and thousands of hours of football and stickball in the street in front of 3110. Mike was a superb natural athlete. From the time we were little boys until high school, Mike could throw a football, pitch a baseball, and shoot a basketball better than any of us. Mike was a leader even as a small boy and he made everyone he played with and against better. If he was on your team, you won, it was as simple as that. It is easy to see now how that little boy became the man that he did.
We were as close as friends could be, yet we were so different…For Mike, it was always the Orioles, for me, the Senators; for Mike it was Joe Frazier, for me, Ali was “The Greatest”; and, of course, for Mike it was McCartney, and for me, Lennon. In 1966, when we were 9 years old, Notre Dame won the National Championship. Their quarterback was Terry Hanratty and their wide reciever was Jim Seymour; the press called them “Mr. Fling and Mr. Cling.” In the late 90’s I was visiting Mr. and Mrs. Oyler as I always did when I was in town. Mrs. Oyler showed me a scrapbook she found from the 60’s with a photo from 1966 of Mike and I in the front yard at 3110. Mike was throwing a football to me and at the bottom of the photo, Mike had written, “Mr. Fling and Mr. Cling, Teton Lane.”
Life is funny. Though I visited with Mr. and Mrs. Oyler throughout the 90’s on the many times I was back home, I had little contact with Mike, who was making his way with his professional and family life in Kansas City. Mr. Oyler was always so proud to recount to me the many successes Mike had in his professional life. I was always so proud to listen.
As fate would have it, Mike and I would each spend more than 30 years in the same field, though at different agencies, and our paths never crossed. However, about 10 or 12 years ago, my work took me to Kansas City. For reasons that are no longer important, I was unable to call Mike to tell him I was coming to Kansas City. When I had completed my assignment, I met with the Special Agent in Charge of the FBI’s Kansas City Office, who was Mike’s supervisor. When I finished my briefing with the SAC, I told him that I had grown up with Mike. The SAC said, “I wish I had 25 Agents like Mike Oyler”. Mrs. Oyler was as proud as could be when I told her that story the next time I was home. Though it had been some 40 years since I had caught one, it was great to learn that “Mr. Fling” was still throwing touchdown passes.
So tomorrow, I’ll be where it all started for Mike and I. I’ll look out from the porch to the street and remember all those very important football games we played; using the lamp posts as goal lines and the cracks in the asphalt as the first down markers; and I’ll remember that when the street lights came on it meant it was time for dinner and the game was over, but no..one of us would shout, “Next touchdown wins”; and keep playing until Mr. Oyler hollered from the porch and then the game really was over.
Mike’s journey with us is over and he has left each of us with wonderful memories. Mike is the example that its not how long you live, its how you lived that matters most. Mike set an example for me starting at 8 years old. He continued to set that example for his children and his colleagues for the rest of his life.
To Lisa and Rebecca and Kevin, to Tommy and Lynda, to Mike’s FBI and law enforcement colleagues, and to his friends, I offer this, let us mourn Mike’s passing, but not be sad, be glad that Mike Oyler was your husband, your dad, your brother, your colleague, or your friend.
I am a Retred US Marine who volunteered with Mike at the Kansas City VA hospital. He was truly unique and exceptional. He was someone I could always share stories with and I shared comraderie with him. I am debated at hearing of his passing. I pray for comfort for his family and friends. God Bless Mike and his family.
Lisa, Rebecca and Kevin, I am deeply saddened by your loss. May you be comforted by the outpouring of love from your family and friends. Love and hugs to you today and always.
A good, kind, caring person. I will miss Mike jogging with his dog each morning or evening. Mike was always interested in the well-being of my daughter who is a military Lieutenant Colonel in the Army. Mike would shovel snow from my drive way, help with fallen tree limbs, stop and talk about his visits to Red Cross disaster areas and much more. Mike will be missed so much. My prayers are with Lisa and his children. Thank you for sharing Mike with the Walden Place Cul-de-sac. God Bless You Always.
Our thoughts and prayers go out to you Lisa, Rebecca, Kevin, his siblings Tom & Lynda and your extended family on Mikes passing.
In my 26 years of teaching at Rockhurst Agent Oyler won the Grammy or Oscar as the guest speaker of the year from the time we met in 2003. As busy as he was, Mike always made time to come in and talk to my senior US Government class each semester. He captivated the attention of every student in those 45 minutes like most could only dream of in education. Mike epitomized humility and generosity all the while as a confident and proud FBI agent committed to serving others, doing the right thing. He always prefaced every presentation encouraging the young men to thank their parents for the sacrifice they’ve made to send them to Rhs. He was an incredible teacher bringing in Visual aids & relics from past cases that humanized his work and made it personal. When Agent Oyler left the classroom there were several givens: he was passionate about his wife, kids, job and serving others. I know the hundreds of students who observed his presentations from 2003 til last Dec had a greater appreciation for Mike Oyler and the FBI. After he retired, he still came back & presented on his experiences w/ the FBI. He encouraged our boys to continue to give back to their communities as he showed photos of hurricane damage on one of his Red Cross experiences. I’ll miss Mike as a friend, mentor and guest speaker. The world is a better place because of Mike Oyler. Thank you Mike for the impact you had on so many peoples lives. Thank you for sharing the gift that you are and were to so many. No doubt you’ll be an Angel looking after and smiling down on all of us as you sit at Gods right hand side with that smile that you brought to all those you met. RIP.
To the entire Oyler family:
I extend both condolences on behalf of the entire American Red Cross of Missouri and Arkansas family and deepest thanks for his passionate service for us over the past five years. He did so much for so many during his short time. We always could count on Mike to answer the call, whether it was at 2 AM on a cold, snowy night comforting a family who had just lost everything in a fire, responding to a disaster anywhere in our great country, installing smoke alarms to make families safe, or supporting America’s veterans. He was a friend and inspiration to all who met him. My enduring memory of Mike will be his enthusiastic entrance into the disaster services area of our office with a huge smile, full of energy and eager to discuss what he had just done or review the task ahead. Mike was a man among men. He was a servant who lived his faith. We will miss him deeply.
Please accept my sincere condolences of Mike. While I didn’t work directly with Mike, we often spoke, a great guy to be associated with and to know for his dedication to his family, friends and the job. He will be missed. My apologies for not attending but had hip replacement surgery last week and not permitted to drive. May the Lord bless his sole. All the best to the family.
Lisa, Rebecca, Kevin & family:
I cannot begin to express my shock & sadness when informed of Mike’s passing. We were friends & colleagues for many years. Even after transferring from KC, we maintained contact & talked about sports & sometimes even a little work. I will truly miss his calls, even though he was usually just trying to contact Amy.
Rest in peace, my friend.
Mike & I were assigned to the Drug Squad (Squad 9) together in KC from 1995-1999. We worked most of our cases together during that time & I could not have asked for a better partner. Whenever I needed help, he was always there–even if it meant driving to KCK from Lee’s Summit in the middle of the night.
Mike loved to talk about work, sports, movies, & especially his family. He drove them all the way to Indiana for my wedding in 1998, where he gave the toast which my 91-year-old mother still talks about to this day.
We stayed in touch throughout the years & I still can’t believe he isn’t there to send me a random email or call just to say hi. His energy, optimism, love of life, & compassion were truly unique & I was blessed to be included in his wide circle of friends.
My deepest condolences to Lisa, Rebecca, & Kevin–you were his world.
Sorry for your loss. I had the pleasure to meet on several occasions. He had lots of good stories. Mike was a good man.
Debi told us the sad news if Mike’s death. Please know you will continue to be in our prayers. May God be with you and your family
Cherish the memories.
So sorry to hear about the passing of Mike O. Mike was an agent’s agent and a true professional. I had the pleasure of working with him for 15 years and he is someone I will never forget. He dearly loved his job, family, and others. He was always there to give a helping hand whenever anyone needed it. God bless Mike and his family. You are gone way too soon.
Mike treated all will respect and dignity. He was one of the hardest working and dedicated agents in the FBI. Without a doubt, he did his part to make the world a better place.
I had the pleasure of working with Mike on the surveillance squad in Kansas City, and Mike was one of the hardest working Agents I worked with in my 27 years with the FBI. No matter what the assignment was, Mike was always the first to be on the scene ready and able for duty. The most exciting case we worked together was following the bank robber from Kansas City to Missoula, Montana to meet up with his crime partners. I always admired him for his dedication for physical fitness through his running. I was so saddened to read of his passing in the Weekly Summary put out by the Society of Former Special Agents of the FBI (SFSAFBI). I have never read as many condolences as those listed here for any one I have known that says a lot about the person Mike was. Condolences to the family.
Mike was a friend to all and will be greatly missed! My prayers are with your family.
Mike Scalise
I am so sorry for your loss. Coach Mike was a great mentor. I have the fondest memories of our volleyball team and the many stories he shared. I feel very grateful to have had the opportunity to learn from him. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers.
My sincerest condolences to your family. I just recently learned of Mike’s passing and was so heartbroken. I only know of Mike from the gym and he was always so positive and happy. Everyone there loved him and you just couldn’t have a bad day when he was around. He was truly a bright light. You could see it on him when walked in the door. On behalf of the Genesis family, I am truly truly sorry for this tragic loss to your family. ?
I am so sorry for your loss. As a volleyball coordinator at OLP we were always so grateful to have Mike volunteer to coach. He was so generous, inspiring and motivating. He changed so many lives for the better and will be deeply missed. I loved his energy and dedication.
I am so sorry for your loss. I remember when Mr. Oyler came to my school for a presentation and he was full of energy, he taught us so much about working as a special agent. He was definitely someone that would help anybody out, and I appreciate him for everything. Rest in perfect peace.
Sorry to hear of Mike’s passing. I met him working a case at Kansas City Airport and quickly became friends. His smile, positivity and passion for doing whats right were unmatched. Thoughts and prayers for his family and friends.
Lisa & Family – I met Mike while at the KC FBI. I was brand new, but he took me under his wing & shared valuable insight. We have stayed in touch over the years, and the first and last thing he shared each time was how each of you were doing. He always said he wasn’t sure how he locked you down, Lisa. He truly loved you with a love one is only ever so blessed to have on earth. I admired how he gave to everyone, with sincerity & a strong moral compass that never once has wavered in the near 2 decades of knowing him. I’m proud to have known him. He loved God & I know you will all be together again someday. I am so sorry about this loss & pray Gods peace over each of you.
Rest In Peace my friend. God must have needed you to continue your work in Heaven. You lived your life fighting against evil in this world and I will miss you! Best FBI agent I ever knew! See you in Heaven Buddy.
Sincerely your friend,
Bryan