Michael Richard Oyler, age 63, Lee’s Summit, MO, passed away on August 23, 2020.
Mike was born on January 3, 1957 in Washington D.C. to Mary Margaret “Peggy” and Charles Richard “Dick” Oyler. He was the oldest of three, followed by his siblings Tom and Lynda. He grew up in Bowie, Maryland where he is well known for his friendliness and generous heart by friends and family.
On May 16, 1990, Mike married the love of his life, Lisa. Together they had two children, Rebecca and Kevin. His wife and children knew him as a goofy, hard-working, compassionate, Paul McCartney-obsessed man who would give anyone the shirt off of his back. He was incredibly outgoing and would run into people he knew wherever he went. When he wasn’t working and helping others, he was coaching all of Kevin’s sports, supporting Rebecca at dance recitals and coaching her volleyball team, or playing with his kids and dog at home. He took every opportunity to sing his wife and children’s praises to anybody who would listen.
It’s hard to convey in words how incredibly generous and dependable Mike was to everyone around him. Whether you were a friend or stranger, he was always ready to offer his assistance whether it be in the form of a helping hand, a listening ear, or a warm embrace. One immediately felt better when he was around, and knew he would carry any burden on their behalf. To know him was to know true selflessness and love.
Mike was a force of nature in his careers, and dedicated his life to doing good for his community. After serving in the US Army from 1975-1978, he obtained his Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism at the University of Maryland before pursuing a career with the FBI as a Special Agent. For 32 years he worked tirelessly, dedicated to doing ‘bad things to bad people’, while simultaneously helping and changing the lives of many of those he came across. It would be difficult to summarize the numerous accomplishments throughout his career, but he was so proud of the work he did, with justice and his ironclad morals always at the forefront of his mind.
After retirement, his work was not done. Never one to sit idly by, he immediately began volunteering with the Red Cross as part of the Disaster Action Team, responding to fires and natural disasters in Kansas City and the United States. Often getting up in the middle of the night to respond to fires, Mike’s favorite part was getting hugs from those he was holding up in the midst of a tragedy. As a military veteran, he also volunteered with Veteran’s Court as a mentor, eager to help change the lives of his peers.
Those close to Mike knew he was a practical man of simple pleasures. A $2 PBR tallboy and a burger were the height of luxury, although his son would attest to the fact that he secretly loved barrel-aged bourbon stouts. Easy-going and kind, Mike was a huge personality who was always the focal point of a party or outing. He could talk for hours, telling stories of his life and family with no end in sight. After the heart-breaking theft of his original Bronco 2 in the 1985, Mike was always seen in a fuel-efficient Toyota or Honda on the way to baseball practice or McDonald’s. He wanted all for others, and nothing for himself. The hardest part about this loss is knowing of all the lives that will not get the chance to experience his immense generosity and kindness.
The world would be a better place if there were more people like Mike Oyler.
He is survived by his wife Lisa, his daughter Rebecca Oyler and her husband Cory Wacht, his son Kevin Oyler, his brother Tom Oyler and his sister Lynda Oyler. He is preceded in death by his father Charles and his mother Mary.
There will be a funeral service at Holy Spirit Catholic Church in Lee’s Summit, MO (1800 MO-150) at 10 AM on Saturday, August 29, 2020. That evening, there will be a visitation service from 6-8 PM at Langsford Funeral Home (115 SW 3rd St) also in Lee’s Summit. The visitation will be preceded by a military honors at 5:45 PM. For those who cannot attend in person, we would love for you to join the 10AM service via live stream: https://youtu.be/gCg1P22QV5Y
In lieu of flowers and gifts, the family requests donations be made to the Red Cross to continue Mike’s legacy of serving others, through the organization he was so passionate about. Mike Oyler Memorial Fund here: https://charity.gofundme.com/o/en/campaign/mike-oyler-memorial-fund